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Should I stick it out? or move?
« on: September 11, 2008, 05:16:01 am »
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Ive just moved into this small apartment,its been taking the council  a very long time to house me despite the fact it was urgent, a year later and I was still stuck in that house,, Id been turned down for places alot as well,so ended up finding a private let that allows pets which is rare,but since ive moved in within 2 weeks, the 2 houses across th street were demolished and its now an unsightly building site for new apartments with loads of noise.  They are there from 8.30 am to 5 at night. There are aprtments all around me, theres next door,upstairs,and even below me!!! , There is a new aprtment next door, theyre patio at the back backs onto my bedroom window,so not much rpivacy for them if they want to sit outside out back,no good at all if they decided to smoke out there as all the smoke would fly into my bedroom.lets hope they dont snoke lol. upstairs you can hear all the footsteps all the time,I hate noise. but my aprtment is steps away from the high st which is very convienent.pets are allowed, cost of living is cheap. bus depo is round the cornor about 5 minutes so easy to catch a bus somewhere. Am I just being really fussy? Could I end up with a whole new set of problems if I moved? What should I do?
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« Reply #1 on: September 11, 2008, 05:39:13 am »
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Hey Emily, so glad to hear you got a place at last. My advice would be to stick it out, see how it goes for a couple of months. Seems an easily accesible place to live for you, this is good!! A shame about the building work why don't you try getting some earplugs? Keep us updated and above all enjoy your new place
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Re:Should I stick it out? or move?
« Reply #2 on: September 11, 2008, 09:07:35 am »
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Given that it took you so long to find a place, I think it would be unwise to move straight away. Surely you can look around and apply for new places, but not give your landlord notice until you've been accepted into somewhere else?

That said, apartment living isn't that bad - sure it's a shock at first, but try to think of the long-term. Firstly, building is sooooo annoying and I know because they built 2 townhouses right next to me straight after I moved in - the builders even tore up our driveway and everything. But they may be building for what, 6 months at the most? And do you view housing, a basic need, as a long-term or short term thing? I put up with a few months of building, and so far 2 and a half years of post-building blissful quiet. Also, I know having neighbours so close to your apartment that they can see what you're eating for dinner is daunting, but the thing is, would they really care? You can probably see into all of your neighbours houses too, but does that mean you're going to spend all your time spying on them? No! Because what they're doing is something equally as mundane as what you do in your house - watching tele, surfing the net, doing dishes etc. It's hardly must-see stuff.

Of course, I did have an exhibitionist couple living opposite my last apartment, but that's a different story!

And you get used to noise.

Sit it out, don't do anything drastic. In a few months all your issues will pale in significance to the fact that you're happy and healthy in your new home.
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« Reply #3 on: September 11, 2008, 11:45:22 am »
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haven't you been looking for a place of your own for like the past year or something? I think it's time to stick it out. No matter where you go you're going to find something you don't like. The things you described are usually the problems that most people face when they're living in low cost of living areas. After a while, you won't notice the footsteps or anything else. I live in a dorm and i can hear everything that goes on in the hall. =everything= lol. You just stop paying any attention to it after a while.
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« Reply #4 on: September 11, 2008, 04:34:39 pm »
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Aww I love you guys and your advice. Ill try to stick it out then,just wonder if its anything to do with my autisum in regards to the noise.

Jess you live in a dorm? You at uni? I cant help comparing it to american pie beta house.lol. maybe you live there without the saucy cheeky goings on har.

The builder guy said it would take 2 years to build those apartments!.

Not sure if he was having me on? He seemed serious, and not too happy himself that he had to be there for that long.
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Re:Should I stick it out? or move?
« Reply #5 on: September 12, 2008, 11:26:15 am »
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Hey Emily,
In regards to the noise, It seems that it effects many people living with Autism. But instead of moving from a place that has everything you want and need why not see about getting noise reduction headphones when for when you are at home that way it wont bother you as much.
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« Reply #6 on: September 23, 2008, 05:40:27 am »
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The footsteps are really loud. She must be wearing shoes with a thick heel. its loud stomping all day and night and moving things around. its really getting on my nerves,but I dont want to seem nit picky.I seriously feel like moving
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« Reply #7 on: September 26, 2008, 03:20:20 pm »
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Have you tried talking to the landlord about your situation or maybe even trying to explain to your neighbor (without too much detail) how it affects you.?
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« Reply #8 on: September 28, 2008, 03:11:50 pm »
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I wrote her a letter , it was a nice friendly letter,she hasnt talked to me since. She hasnt acknowledged my letter or even said hello anymore.But it has been a little bit better but not great. the last few nights have been a bit stompy and there was loud music tonight. its loud in the day and in the evening I just want quiet. . My social worker is working hard to find me something. He found this flat that is really nice,but im waiting to hear about the dog. Im not sure I can say alot to my landlord since hes still waiting for very slow council to pay him anything. plus I have to talk to him nicely about getting out of this lease. its not signed by a lawyer/solicetor or anything,just him and me and my mom? just something he typed up.
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« Reply #9 on: September 30, 2008, 02:10:17 pm »
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Well obviously your "neighbor" needs a little lesson in empathy!!!! 


Some people are afraid because of their own ignorance!!! I really hope you can find an arrangement that works for you As for the situation with your landlord he may be ok with the breaking of the lease anyway because payment is a slow process just explain to him WHY and the actions you took yourself to try and rectify the situation. I am sure once he hears that he''ll be sympathetic to breaking the lease OR try and help you with your callous neighbor! 
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« Reply #10 on: October 01, 2008, 01:18:51 pm »
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I went to knock on her door today and was met with an air of  hostilty. She said thats how flats are, people cant just sit down on the sofa and not expect to move??? She said I was harrassing her by writing a friendly note???. she says she is out in the day from 6 am till 3pm. she has a 6 year old girl,and apparently she doesnt have time to do stuff. she said she couldnt see why she couldnt wear heels inside? im being unreasonable to expect dead quiet at night?

Am I being unreasonable? should I be expecting her to be abosultely slient as a mouse after 9pm ? she says she has been trying and she has, just a couple of nights were noisy, she said next door was very noisy but she wouldnt go and tell them to be quiet, she says its how the situation is? . They both have small little girls. Am I just being nitpicky? I cant really expect the little girl to be abosultely quiet?
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Re:Should I stick it out? or move?
« Reply #11 on: October 01, 2008, 07:45:44 pm »
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Apartment living isn't exactly ideal in many ways. I have lived in one for many years now. It is a little noisy, but it can't always be helped. My upstairs neighbor walks loudly too, but she honestly can't help it.  I know because I visit her frequently to assist her with projects. Her footsteps make almost no noise when she walks around her apartment...and yet it sounds loud when I am in my apartment. So what I do to help tune it out is play music quietly and it really helps.

Hang in there, Emily. It may not be perfect in the apartment, but I really think you will be much happier there than if you were still living with your mum and stepdad.

Don't forget...this doesn't have to be a permanent. Keep your eyes out for a better location. You might even find one on the top floor.  Minimally, you are now out of a difficult living situation and can focus on settling into a new routine and home. Be patient...it does take a little time to find the right place.
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« Reply #12 on: October 04, 2008, 04:24:48 am »
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Thanks culpie for your kind words and everyone else too.
Ill let you all know what happens.
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« Reply #13 on: October 05, 2008, 12:25:31 am »
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Hey Em, sorry not replied sooner Hope everything works out for you
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