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Do You Ever Feel Like...
« on: March 01, 2008, 08:58:28 pm »
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Your 'friends' are only your friends when you're happy?  It's been a rough couple of weeks for me, and while it can be argued that it could be alot worse for me....I have still felt pretty rotten, and also incredibly forgotten. Things have gotten better, but I am left with this overwhelming feeling of being avoided. I am a relatively happy person, but the winter months (especially the last ones) have a very negative effect on me. I am living at home, where there is no space for me, I am working 20+ hours a week, going to school full time, paying bills. I am a very shy person as well, and I commute, so I don't have a lot of friends at school. Pretty much most of my time is spent at home (studying/cleaning), at school, and at work. Again, things could be worse, I realize.

But everybody needs to vent sometimes. It's just the healthy thing to do. And I try not to vent too much because then I feel like I'm being whiney and overdramatic. But when I have vented/griped.....I really feel like its only made me feel lonelier. My friends don't offer advice, they hardly even empathize with me. No hugs, no "I'm sorry, babes.", no reassurances....just silence. And it's driving me crazy.

I make it a point to be there for my friends. I'm not saying I'm the perfect friend, but I do my best to try to be as good as I can. I don't want my friends to be afraid to talk to me because they're worried they'll be whining too much or they'll be too much of a downer. But it certainly feels like it doesn't go both ways. I feel very much ignored, and very overlooked. It's causing me even more stress, which I don't need.

I just don't get it....


Have you guys ever felt this way?? 
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« Reply #1 on: March 01, 2008, 10:24:51 pm »
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Yess I Felt That way.. Infact Since dec Of This year .. It Has been very stressful for me!!! An i know How you Feel An Know What your goin through.. You see I'm shy Also With Lill Friends.. But To Say .. Truth> Your Friends May Be quite Cause They Don't know What to say or help you!!!<Hope this Answers Your Question Fear not if ya Need Someone to Vent Or talk I'm here An Also The A&F Team We love Helping ..So Don't Hesitate to call on us!!! or me Stay smiling!!!
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« Reply #2 on: March 02, 2008, 06:09:57 am »
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Yes I have been through this, though you might not like what happened to me.

I lived with the friends who were ignoring me, leaving me out of things, and talking behind my back (they denied it, but the flat had very thin walls, and I'm not stupid)

It all started with me saying 'no' to nights out and things, because I'm on a very demanding course at university, and they just didn't understand it. It's not as simple as getting a 2000 word essay done by Thursday, I do Graphic Design so I have to show every tiny process I've been through to get to the end result, which takes time, and is not as simple as people seem to think, plus I get the same length essays to do on top of everything else.

But anyway, I told them I didn't want to live with them for the way they were treating me (it turned into bullying) and they just got nastier. So I ended up moving out and I have never spoken to them since. And to be honest, I have never been happier. I've found out who my real friends are, and I live in a much nicer place now with people who actually respect me.

So what I'm basically saying is this... if you're being treated like this, and they don't seem to care when it's brought up... are they really your friends? Are they worth hanging onto when they make you feel like this? It's not a nice question, I know. But you don't want to waste time on them if they're not good friends. I know I was absolutely gutted that I had wasted a year and a half on friends who weren't anything like me, and definately not real friends. When this happened, the people who did care appeared, and since then I've met more people, and I actually have more friends than I ever have had whilst at uni. And they don't care if I say no to the occaisional night out, because they understand that I'm not free every night of the week.

Of course it could turn out differently for you, talk to some of them about it, and ask why it's happening. If you get a positive answer then they may be worth saving, it may need a little work, but you could get there.

At the end of the day, do what is best for you. That's what I did, and I'm so much happier now I've finally figured out who my real friends are. It's just a shame that it can take a while to find them.

Hope it all works out for the best for you.
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« Reply #3 on: March 02, 2008, 06:49:08 pm »
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Hey my sister, I might say that I felt this problem for may be five years or more. The loneliness is not with friends onely but it was with my family too . Actually I never felt any strong relation between me and them , not a love feeling nor caring. I do not way though they helped me a lot and asked me questions that I did not find an answer for them. They kept asking whats wronge with you? way do you go away from us? we feel like you do not wants us? untile they said do you need a DOCTOR ? I do not know what was wrong with me at that period. I just always felt like I am unwanted and ignorable. I do not know what to say about that situation but it drove me really down and I became depressed for a time and stile not knowing the reason until now? I keep asking my self is it from me or is it the luck I have or is it the way i think and deal with everybody around me? because sometimes the cause is from our selves and we believe wrongly that it is from the others. I do not know ?????????I think I will leave it to the action of days hopefuly I will get the clue and change the point of view towards the people and life . I know I am not making you feel better by these words but you have exploded the quite volcano on me and made me write with out stopping. God help me and help you too.
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« Reply #4 on: March 03, 2008, 10:31:03 am »
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I only had a few friends growing up, can't say I ever felt that way exactly Kate but no what is like to fall out with a friend (my fault petty actually over a tv show).

My best friend is Mark my hubby other than that Dawn she lives in Yockleton Shrewsbury so only see her once a month.

I hope this is just a patch for you and you all make up and get back to normal if not then they weren't worth your friendship in the first place.

Trust and be happy in yourself that is what is important what makes you happy.

Stay strong sweetie
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« Reply #5 on: February 03, 2009, 03:41:32 pm »
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i had a "friend" that was only there for me in my "sunny" times. and thats not a friend. people like that are not worth your time. i knew that i deserved better and i told her that it was over. it happens alot. you need friends to tell you that no matter WHAT everything will be okay. and to understand your aspect of the situation.
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