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« on: July 17, 2005, 08:51:33 am »
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I get so down sometimes.. it seems EVERYTHING is going against me.. and then I have to stop and think of all the good things in my life to help me cope...Life is a hard road and as Itzak Perlman said it's not what life hands you but what YOU DO with what life hands you is what the quality of life is ... So I ask you all . How do you handle your depression...
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« Reply #1 on: July 17, 2005, 01:54:51 pm »
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I often have to deal with depressed people in my job and the first thing I want to say is that the word depression shouldn't be used so lightly. Frequently, I hear people say that they are oh so depressed while all they have is a down-day and they will feel fine again in the morning. Depression often takes weeks if not months and sometimes years to get over. I have learned that people who suffer from a real depression are not really when other people use the word to indicate a down-day.

But to answer your question, when I feel down - because I think that's what you mean (my apologies if I misunderstood your post) - I don't try to force myself to do "happy things". I just let it pass and hope it'll be better in the morning. Sometimes, I watch a movie or read a book though that usually doesn't really help.
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« Reply #2 on: July 17, 2005, 02:26:44 pm »
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I get so down sometimes.. it seems EVERYTHING is going against me.. and then I have to stop and think of all the good things in my life to help me cope...
I try to do that too, and I realize there are many people better off than me. But in dealing with depression this doesn't really help.
I don't really have an answer, as I don't know what to do about it. All I do is hope for better days or I try to think of some future event (like a concert or something) so I have at least something to look forward to ... at least until then. It doesn't really help overcoming depression but it keeps me going for a while.
I daydream ... A LOT. I've also started meditating, but at the end of the day these are just two ways to escape my daily life.
Some people might even turn to drugs or alcohol ... better to feel nothing than feeling the pain ... *hiccup* I'm actually the opposite, to feel nothing scares me and the result of addictions isn't something to envy either.

I have started taking some mild "medication" as I sometimes suffer anxiety attacks. It's not really medication but a mixture of Bach flower extracts and alcohol, and it's supposed to make you feel a little less stressed and calmer.

Cristiel, thanks for making that point. Even though most people probably know what depression feels like it's different whether you feel down for a day or two or if you've reached a point in your life when you just feel happy for a day or two.
What kind of job do you have?
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« Reply #3 on: July 17, 2005, 02:30:26 pm »
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I'm a psychologist at the trauma unit of a major hospital.


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I have started taking some mild "medication" as I sometimes suffer anxiety attacks. It's not really medication but a mixture of Bach flower extracts and alcohol, and it's supposed to make you feel a little less stressed and calmer.

A friend of mine takes those when she needs to fly, she's terribly afraid of flying. She says it helps a lot.
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I have started taking some mild "medication" as I sometimes suffer anxiety attacks. It's not really medication but a mixture of Bach flower extracts and alcohol, and it's supposed to make you feel a little less stressed and calmer.

A friend of mine takes those when she needs to fly, she's terribly afraid of flying. She says it helps a lot.

Our dog also takes those whenever there is a thunderstorm or fireworks.  If he doens't take it he drives everyone nuts, they do help (a little bit..)
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Our dog also takes those whenever there is a thunderstorm or fireworks.  If he doens't take it he drives everyone nuts, they do help (a little bit..)
My dog and I are both taking it  cause I made him a nervous wreck due to my own problems.
Yeah, I think they work better if taken over a longer time period. If there's a thunderstorm he probably takes it just a little while before, right? So it might not calm him down as much.
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I often have to deal with depressed people in my job and the first thing I want to say is that the word depression shouldn't be used so lightly. Frequently, I hear people say that they are oh so depressed while all they have is a down-day and they will feel fine again in the morning. Depression often takes weeks if not months and sometimes years to get over. I have learned that people who suffer from a real depression are not really when other people use the word to indicate a down-day.

But to answer your question, when I feel down - because I think that's what you mean (my apologies if I misunderstood your post) - I don't try to force myself to do "happy things". I just let it pass and hope it'll be better in the morning. Sometimes, I watch a movie or read a book though that usually doesn't really help.

I'm sorry Cristel for sounding like it seemed like it was taken lightly.... but no.. I didn't mean that... I meant people who are depressed... for a long time... I talk with people who are so depressed because of the pain they deal with daily( chronic pain) and there are days where they just can't cope with it and well they get suicidal.... I just wanted to ask if people had some different coping skills for such a thing..
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« Reply #7 on: July 17, 2005, 07:06:12 pm »
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The best advice I have for coping with depression (and this comes from personal experience) is to try and get outside yourself as much as possible.  Get involved with helping other people (ex: volunteering) and you will have less time to think about yourself. If your physical pain is so severe that it results in limited mobility, try and find a hobby that can take up some of your time (ex: reading, sewing, stamp collecting)...also try you best to keep a positive attitude (perhaps make a list of all the good things that are in your life.  Depression from illness may never fully go away, but focusing on other aspects of your life can help.
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« Reply #8 on: July 17, 2005, 08:24:50 pm »
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    Hey
Depression is a hard thing.
  I dont really have any advise unsept try to take your mid off it,try to have a positive attitude. I know when I am depressed I go for a long ride on my horse it seems to help to clear my head.
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The best advice I have for coping with depression (and this comes from personal experience) is to try and get outside yourself as much as possible.  Get involved with helping other people (ex: volunteering) and you will have less time to think about yourself. If your physical pain is so severe that it results in limited mobility, try and find a hobby that can take up some of your time (ex: reading, sewing, stamp collecting)...also try you best to keep a positive attitude (perhaps make a list of all the good things that are in your life.  Depression from illness may never fully go away, but focusing on other aspects of your life can help.
damestelle, that was the best advice I've ever heard of. I'm not depressed right now, but I used to be depressed a couple years ago. But I've gotten "down" very increasingly lately, almost every day, for a list of reasons that aren't even a big deal. And whenever I try making myself better when I'm angry and down, it just makes me feel this frustrated rage, so I just cope with it and ride it out. Usually it comes from having nothing to do. I'll remember that advice from now on though.
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And whenever I try making myself better when I'm angry and down, it just makes me feel this frustrated rage

I have always believed that depression is just another form of anger.  Instead of turning rage outwards, people who are depressed turn thier rage in upon themselves.
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« Reply #11 on: July 19, 2005, 11:50:07 am »
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Well, I've never been clinically depressed myself, but one of my brothers mates used to have servere depression, and one of the things that was suggested to her when she went through a huge phase of it was to recapture her childhood. So occasionally they used to take trips to the seaside, or go out and play games like when they were kids.

Cristle- I'm thinking of getting into that area of work. Is it hard? How long did it take you to get qualified?
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Cristle- I'm thinking of getting into that area of work. Is it hard? How long did it take you to get qualified?

I don't know how the school system in the UK works, but I went to university in Belgium and it takes five years to get a master degree in psychology.

Is it hard? It depends of what you want to do. I work at the trauma unit of a major hospital and that's pretty hard. I also worked with children for six months and found that the hardest thing there is, especially when you have to deal with child abuse. So I asked to be transfered. I mainly work with adults now. But I wouldn't say this kind of job is easy. If you'd like to know more, you can always send me a PM or email.


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I'm sorry Cristel for sounding like it seemed like it was taken lightly.... but no.. I didn't mean that... I meant people who are depressed... for a long time... I talk with people who are so depressed because of the pain they deal with daily( chronic pain) and there are days where they just can't cope with it and well they get suicidal.... I just wanted to ask if people had some different coping skills for such a thing..

I'm sorry to hear that, Frodomyhero. I think chronic pain is very difficult to deal with, mainly because you know it won't disappear. I think a lot of people who suffer from a chronic illness are suffering from a depression as well and it's very difficult to treat. Like damestelle also said, I think it's important to focus on the nice thinks in your life as well as to try to not allow yourself to sink back into misery. Go out with friends, get a hobby, anything that can help you to keep your mind of your illness.

There are a lot of different types of depression and a lot of different reasons for someone to get depressed. Therefor it is important to see every case individually. A lot of doctors tend to prescribe medication but I'm not a fan of that . At least, not when it's not necessary. And medication is never the solution, those pills don't cure anything.



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« Reply #13 on: July 19, 2005, 01:09:16 pm »
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Wow It's been a long time since I've posted!
Anyway to go back on the subject my brother has been through depression and he is now seeing a psychologist who helps him a lot. And also as damestelle said he makes a lot of drawings and stuff like that. it's another way for him to expres what he feels.
I think it's really hard to cope with people going through depression... I have my down days as everybody but it's nothing compare to what depressed people feel...
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« Reply #14 on: July 19, 2005, 03:25:34 pm »
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My Aunt had depression for quite a few years. She's only just got over things, and is back to 'normal'.
It was very hard. Especially for my Uncle who could do very little to help her.

A very close friend of mine, her boyfriend has been diagnosed with depression. And let me say, neither of them are finding it easy. They are both young, and in the middle of some very important examinations.
I want nothing more than to give my friend a hug, to say I am there for her whenever she needs me.
The thing is, we live at opposite sides of the world. So all I can really do is read her e-mails, and speak to her on the phone.

It's hard.

Not nice. Not nice at all.
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