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« Reply #15 on: April 09, 2007, 11:25:35 am »
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Maybe he is afraid of things he can't control, of being caught unawares. He is usually a pretty together kind of guy, appearing composed and seeming quite happy/bouncy but when he was Punk'd we saw an entirely different side to him. It was almost scary to watch how worried he was. That would sort of tie in with "filling the void"... Of course we don't really know him, so it's all just speculation. Sometimes I get this odd feeling about him though when I read certain fan reports, like he is not entirely happy... If his dad is one issue and he would like to be in touch with him but can't for some reason, then I don't think that it's not a big deal for him. 
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« Reply #16 on: April 09, 2007, 03:28:38 pm »
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I've been thinking about this on and off all afternoon, about "filling a void" in life and about being around people. It must be hard sometimes to be someone well known like Elijah, because there are certain things you can't really do.

For instance, some of the best fun I have in life is in my online communities. I've met some of the people in two of them so to them I'm a real person. To the others I'm just a collection of pixels.  I choose not to pretend to be something I'm not because, at the end of the day, whether I'm a middle aged housewife or a seventeen-year-old, no one really cares!

But with Elijah, and other well known people like him, it's different. They'd have to be someone else online, unless they were part of a community where they already knew everyone. If Elijah came here, for instance, and was honest about who he was we'd all be "Yeah, right!" It must be kind of lonely.

Mind you, I guess Elijah's life is too busy and full to spend much time in online communities - unlike sad people like me! 
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« Reply #17 on: April 09, 2007, 03:41:09 pm »
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I think, like some of you have already said, that Elijah fears to be alone. I think that no one likes to be alone. Maybe the thing he fears the most is that all the things he loves will disappear and that no one will care about him anymore
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« Reply #18 on: April 09, 2007, 03:58:31 pm »
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I very much agree with the "filling the void" and the issues with his father.  He talked baout when something doesn't get vented, it ets worse.  I see that a little bit understanding his situation.  Mine is similar to his.  I don't see my father, but I see my father's parents.  I get where he's coming from and how stressful that can be in some ways.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks he fears being alone.  Sure, many people feel that way, the difference is how it shows sometimes.

Jis well-adjusted-ness, to me, is a bit of a sign.  Many child stars go off the deep end (the Culkins, Corey Feldman), while a few get past that, such as ELijah.  For one thing, that's a hard precident to keep when you're often the example made with other "normal" issues to deal with. 

On top of this, I kind of wondered if his size was ever an issue for him.  I mean, before LOTR, I wonder if he ever felt insecure about it.  There's definitely no reason now, and that sudden flip might have an effect as well (spoken from someone who started out as a psych major and couldn't handle the science part, BTW)

I'm glad we're getting into a deep ELijah conversation here.  Don't ask me why, but it's refreshing.
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« Reply #19 on: April 09, 2007, 05:24:30 pm »
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I know what you mean. I also find it refreshing.
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« Reply #20 on: April 09, 2007, 05:50:51 pm »
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thats a very interesting question. I read your answers and was thinking about them very long and careful. I just considered how almost always he appears cheerful (and nobody can be that always), his smoking (Sean Astin mentioned about it too, that this attitude has more deep meaning than just a bad attitude he picked up), and his almost freak-like love for music. I also think that his fear might be loneliness, but mostly that someone will find out, how alone he feels inside.  I think he's always feeling this loneliness inside, no matter how many friends, success and whatever else he's got. I mean, he has a wonderful mother, who tried her best to fill the place of his father as well being a good mother to him. but no matter how wonderful and caring she is, there is always a gap in his inside. Because for a child, its very important to have both your parents. And for a son especially, he needs a masculin pendant for looking up to. So he fills this gap with smoking and music. I have a friend, whos parents are divorced too, he is always gentle and cheerful, is never in bad mood. but sometimes when i was with him, talking with him about my problems and asked him about his, he never wanted to talk about, switch to other topic and just laugh. It worries me everytime, but i have the feeling that he is eager to hide his dark and sad side, just showing up cheerful, that he is afraid to do that. Sure, Elijah is a star and so i can understand that he doesn't want to show his problems in public. I think most of the celebrities don't. But as Elijah started acting very early, he was in the public eye since young age, also very busy with working, never able to live a normal average life. And so when his father left the family, i don't think that he was REALLY able to deal with his feelings about that, because he was busy with acting. And so there is something in his inside, which is not solved yet. So to deal with he has got music and smoking to express this gap. Do you get what i mean? Just my thought.
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« Reply #21 on: April 09, 2007, 07:53:33 pm »
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You know, I keep forgetting about the music thing.  I never remember to mention it until later!

The way he goes for it just seems like he is looking for something, like he's looking for an answer.  I totally understand that too.

OK, I feel better now that that is out of my mouth
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« Reply #22 on: April 09, 2007, 08:15:55 pm »
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I too, believe that Elijah fears. I am sure a lot of his fears are the same as the rest of us.

-Being alone
-Not being succesful
-Having no friends
-Death
etc.

But I am also sure he has more fears than we can imagine. Maybe he's afraid of little things, like spiders, and we'd never know about it. Maybe he's afraid that because he is so popular, he'll never have true friends.

One thing that I couldnt get out of my mind was something my Aunt told me on Friday.

My Aunts best friends husband went to a Red Sox game one time. Don't remember how, but he started to talk to the man next to him. They started up a great conversation, talked about life, bought eachother beers, and became great friends by the end of the game. Of course, they're guys, and didn't think of asking to keep in contact in anyway ( ), but they had a good time.
After the game, the man and some of his friends were talking. He said "Wow, that guy Elijah was really nice." and his friends were like "you DO know who that was... right?" he was shocked and said "No, of course not. He was just a really nice guy at a Red Sox game, right?" and they said "That was Elijah Wood." He didn't know who Elijah Wood was at the time, but he did more research when he got home and was amazed at Elijah and his life.

So I was discussing this with my Mom the other day. I said "What a great thing it would be to see Elijah Wood be himself. When the cameras are gone, the media is away, the fans are not all over him, and he is himself."

So I felt bad, he never really gets the expirience of being himself, having fun with friends, with no media around.

Then I asked my Mom why he didn't tell my aunts friends husband who he really was? And my Mom said "I'm sure if the word got out, Lij would end up singing autographs the rest of the game."

SO TRUE.
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« Reply #23 on: April 09, 2007, 10:59:42 pm »
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I have a friend, whos parents are divorced too, he is always gentle and cheerful, is never in bad mood. but sometimes when i was with him, talking with him about my problems and asked him about his, he never wanted to talk about, switch to other topic and just laugh. It worries me everytime, but i have the feeling that he is eager to hide his dark and sad side, just showing up cheerful, that he is afraid to do that.

My boyfriend's dad left when he was four and has had next to zero communication with him ever since.  Well, he's usually a perky, happy person, but the one time he got on the subject he was talking about it for like half an hour and his eyes were getting all misty-looking, and it just made a major impression on me.  I mean, I knew it bothered him, but I guess this just woke me up to how much of an emotional scar it really is for him, and one that is always there somewhere, chewing at him, no matter how happy he is in general.  He even said he thinks a lot of the time that it would be better if his father was dead, because then he wouldn't have to wonder why he's out there and just flat-out doesn't care about him.  I was kind of bothered for a while after that whole conversation, because I never really realized how much pain this causes him before that.  I would suspect it's something like that for Elijah Wood too, whether he shrugs it off in public or not.
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« Reply #24 on: April 10, 2007, 01:59:10 am »
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All this is so interesting.

I knew Elijah's parents had divorced but didn't know he had zero contact; that must be really hard.

And ElijahWoodx3's story about the Red Sox game kind of illustrates my point too. It must be so difficult to just do the 'normal' things as a celebrity. I bet Elijah was so pleased to be able to talk to a stranger as if he were a stranger too, and strike up a friendship like that.
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« Reply #25 on: April 10, 2007, 05:36:18 am »
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It's very sad to me that Elijah has no contact with his father.  I expect it does play a large part in making him feel alone and unloved, sort of.

Another thought - anyone who has taken part in such a huge and successful project as LOTR must fear failure?  I remember after LOTR and he was slighly depressed, wasn't he, so maybe that was his fear of not ever being able to surpass that.  Thnaks for all the replies - glad I started an interesting thread!
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« Reply #26 on: April 14, 2007, 07:41:22 pm »
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I'm sure many have innate fears, such as dying, drowning, heights, and being alone. But for someone like Elijah, who has numerous fans and others who know him without ever saying a word to him, it's hard for him to ever be physically alone. So perhaps that fear is even greater, if you know what I mean. I'm sure he's had those moments where he was surrounded by people, almost crowded, but he felt completely and utterly alone. I know I've felt that way before.

Also, as other people have pointed out, as he's been working all his life, perhaps he didn't get to entirely solve the problems with the relationship with his dad, and uses smoking, listening to music, etc. to try to tie up those loose ends. To fill that "void"

And I'm sure he has his silly fears too. I'd like to know what those are, lol. Like, I'm afraid of flies...they're scary to me, haha, I don't know if it's because they're just nasty, or what. I'm not saying that Elijah is scared of insects or anything, but if he was, we'd have something in common! 
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« Reply #27 on: April 14, 2007, 09:19:33 pm »
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This is a very interesting topic. I have read all your answers, and you all have thought about this so profoundly.
I guess he can share most peopleīs fears about being ill, lonely, breaking with her current girlfriend, or about death.
I guess he must be worried about whether he will get more good roles, be able to fulfill the expectations; also I imagine that his new records label must worry him...
I donīt know, but I like to see him as a normal guy so I guess he feels fear about his job, his family, his future... just as I do.
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« Reply #28 on: April 15, 2007, 05:48:45 pm »
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I remember one time when Elijah was on the Ellen Degeneres Show and he stated that he gets nervous when he is late for something. Maybe that could be thought of as one of his fears? 
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« Reply #29 on: April 17, 2007, 09:32:54 am »
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I read an interview ages ago, and the interviewer asked for one of Elijah's fears - and do you wanna know what his answer was? WOMEN!! LOL!! Not as in a "Oh no!! There's a woman - i'm going to run away!!" - but he gets really nervous and doesn't know what to say, and he worries that he'll somehow offend them.  His big brother used to scare him with stories about bad girlfriends etc...but maybe 'Lij has gotten over that little fear now - I hope so!!
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