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« Reply #60 on: April 28, 2005, 09:52:16 am »
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Sorry to say thisa Jess- but the lad you're pinning over sounds like a total rat-ass. I know you can't help who you pine over, but if he is like you've described him, I think you're better trying to move on. It'll happen- you just got to accept that it can. Not saying it'll be quick, easy or without relapses, but it will. Unless you want to spend the rest of your high school days waiting for him to wake up and see the light, in which case, each to their own.

I like the sound of Ryan. I think you should forgo the date BUT ask if he wants to go as friends to see if you two can have a night out together with no pressure and actually keep a conversation going and stuff. That way you can look objectivly at if you're compatable or not. Then if it goes well, you may find yourself suprised and liking it...

Plus, tell your friends that you're touched that they want to know so much about you, but could they please leave you to make your own decisions where love is concerned unless you ask for the advice!
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« Reply #61 on: April 28, 2005, 03:52:42 pm »
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Sorry to say thisa Jess- but the lad you're pinning over sounds like a total rat-ass. I know you can't help who you pine over, but if he is like you've described him, I think you're better trying to move on. It'll happen- you just got to accept that it can. Not saying it'll be quick, easy or without relapses, but it will. Unless you want to spend the rest of your high school days waiting for him to wake up and see the light, in which case, each to their own.
lol, awww... that's a bit harsh. He's really not a bad guy, or i wouldn't like him. Some people don't like him... but that's because he's crazy--and can be quite loud at times. lol, but i like that about him. He's absolutely one of the most fun people to hang around i've ever met. He really is quite sweet, he's outgoing, he's funny, he's really cute, and he's really nice. But he is a boy. that means he likes what they do: sex, video games, and whatever other stupid things they can find to entertain themselves. *shrugs* that's just what they are, i guess.



arg, i guess we'll have to see what tomorrow brings... ya never really know with all the crazy ppl i know, lol. 
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« Reply #62 on: April 29, 2005, 03:48:16 am »
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I just re-read and I do sound harsh don't I? Lol- I'm direct that's my problem! I still think you should wean yourself off the guy, but if you like him, I suppose he sounds better now you've described him fully. Maybe...

Get Ryan on his own and ask him if he still wants to go- if he sounds suspect about it, tell him 'Ok then, talk later' and proceed to not go anywhere and see if he improves in interacting with you!
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« Reply #63 on: April 29, 2005, 11:30:01 am »
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I havent been on here in a while, but I'd like to say THANKYOU SO MUCH!    You guys (girls) are the best agony aunts! thankyou so so so much! I've taken most of your advice. I talked to her and we agreed to keep the band name. then me and my BFF and my other friends in the band talked about how she has been changing and she said she didnt know it bothered us and that she was sorry. I'm so happy! everything is good now, except that she and the boy are going out. grrrr. but, thanks again!! 
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« Reply #64 on: April 29, 2005, 11:43:29 am »
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Glad you got that sorted out! aww- I love success stories!


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Well, it's her choice. Good to know now you'll give her a swift kick up the bum if she goes dodgy again though!
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« Reply #65 on: April 29, 2005, 11:25:20 pm »
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Quote from: LegolasBuzzgirl on April 29, 2005, 03:48:16 am   

I just re-read and I do sound harsh don't I? Lol- I'm direct that's my problem! I still think you should wean yourself off the guy, but if you like him, I suppose he sounds better now you've described him fully. Maybe...
He really is getting a lot better... since he's gotten/getting over his Sam obsession, he's starting to interact with me a lot more like he use to. He's one of those people ya either love or ya hate... lol, i'm on the love side. He seems to be warming up to me... *shrugs* guess we'll see how it goes, eh? lol, and i don't mind your directness... i have just been posting pretty negative things about him.


ahh well, i've got two situations that all i can do is wait and watch how they turn out. *shrugs* who knows?
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« Reply #66 on: April 30, 2005, 01:51:12 pm »
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Good luck Jess- hope something works out! Lol.

Ok- this is a first. I gotta problem.

I've been going out with my boyf for 7 months now, and it's going great. He isn't the problem.
We've just got some new people at the place we both work, and he casually mentioned one was pretty (I don't think she is, but he's going out with me, so he must not know what pretty is). Well, I took the mick out of him (like the loving girlfriend I am- lol) and it seems to have gone around work. Now people keep bringing it up, and all I wanna do is forget it (I got accused of wearing make-up today just to impress him and keep his eyes off her. hello- I'm never without my make-up!). I'm starting to become quite jealous of this girl, even though I know he wouldn't do anything. It's more her I'm worried about. She keeps going all flirty around him (today, he said she walked out of the toilets and there was only him there doing a job, and she goes 'This blouse is too tight 'cos I've got huge boobs' and proceeded to practically shove them in his face) which he's uncomfortable with, and it's none too pleasant for me to hear about either. So- I need advice. Is there any way I can tell her to back off (bearing in mind I hardly know her and will have to work with her- so yelling "keep your f-ing hands off my boyfriend!" will not go down well!) and also any way I can kick my jealously- cos I do not want to get to the point where he can't even talk to her without me turning into the green eyed monster.

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« Reply #67 on: April 30, 2005, 04:03:20 pm »
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Monkey - Yay! I'm so glad things work out (for the most part, at least). Happy to have helped!

Jess - So Jesse's being a little more friendly towards you now? That's probably a good sign, considering he does know you've got a little thing for him. Be careful though - don't jump into anything (including conclusions) too fast. But good luck! So far, things are sounding good!

As for the Ryan business.. don't stress yourself over it. Just see how things go. Who knows, maybe he won't have the guts to ask you out again anyway. Just cross that bridge when you come to it.

LegolasBuzzgirl - Hmm.. that's a tricky one! Jealousy is a hard monster to tame, especially if you might have reason to be jaelous. No sane girl is ever completely comfortable with another girl flirting shamelessly with their guy.

I think you first of all need to talk seriously with your boyfriend. You said you took the mick out of him (heehee, I love that phrase!) when he made that comment about her. But did you talk to him about it otherwise? Maybe one reason you're finding yourself so jealous is that you're afraid he might actually fall for all the crap this other girl is doing.

Talk to him; tell him she's really bothering you. It seems like you guys have a pretty good relationship, so I'm sure he'll be able to assure you that he's not interested in this girl (he doesn't sound like it at all). Once you get some reassurance from him, maybe you'll be able to deal with her a little better.

As far as talking with her.. that's hard. I personally don't know what I would do. Because, as you said, you have to work with her, so yelling at her wouldn't be a very wise move. But she also shouldn't be allowed to get away with what she's doing, either. Hmmm. And on the other hand, if you just talk to her quietly about it, that could encourage her (unfortunately some people are like that). Does she seem one of these types? That would keep it up just to get under your skin?

I think the first step should be talking with your boyfriend. See what you can work out from there.
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« Reply #68 on: May 01, 2005, 08:43:18 am »
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I ended up talking to Andy- he actually brought it up 'cos he noticed something seemed wrong with me! He's said I have no reason at all to be jealous, which I believe. And he was bitching as much as me about this girl, 'cos it seems like she's annoying him as much as she's annoying me. It did make me feel better knowing that, like you suggested it probably would. Problem is, we're both the kind of person to let things linger where other people are concerned until we snap.
I don't know if she'd be the kind to keep on trying- I bloody hope not! She's just split up with her boyf (about a week back) so I hope she'll calm down a bit once she gets over him. I don't know. I know I'm worrying unecesarily- Andy would not do that to me- but, I dunno, it just gets to me. I might just crack her one- it'd be fun. Lol. j/k.
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« Reply #69 on: May 01, 2005, 08:52:45 pm »
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Well, I have this friend. The same friend which I asked about in Jackie's advice thread. Well, she claimed that she thought that I was pissy and that it was best to leave me alone. Hmm. This sounds like a terrible excuess. Anyways, since our school has grown, some kids eat lunch in the sixth grade cafeteria. And I was in there, and one of her friends snorted at me and said, "Jazmine, what are you doing here?" I had been sitting there for the past week when she was in the Keys, but she said it as if I wasn't wanted. Pff. And even though she swore that she was my friend, I can't help but wonder what her excuess would be that time. Everytime I try to talk to her she's like, "Leave me alone." So, I told her that I would bring her in a box of cookies (how gulliable .) and she started talking to me. I think she doesn't like me because I'm not being her charity case. And I'm pretty sure she runs her mouth.

Basically, this is the third time I've questioned our friendship and I've had it. This other girl named Ariel is 100x cooler. And my friend is mad at her too, but I don't see how.

I'VE f*ckING HAD IT.


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« Reply #70 on: May 02, 2005, 12:03:10 pm »
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The shortest name ever- I think it's about time you told this 'friend' where to stick it! Obviously not in that terminology, but if she doesn't want to be talked to, then don't. I suggest forming a new friendship with Ariel- and if you really wanna piss your other ex-friend off, then... ignore her. Don't be stuck up and not talk to her if she says something, but if she tries to insult you, just smile and say "If you say so" or something like that. You'll find that the best thing to do is often to act perfectly normal. She may come back to actually being your friend, but if not, at least you've still got someone to hang with.
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« Reply #71 on: May 02, 2005, 01:08:18 pm »
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Well girls. You know I told you about Sam being really distant with me, I finally got to the bottom of it.
I sent him an email last saturday and he finally sent me one back on Friday which I only got yesterday.

I'm not sure if I should post his email on here. I mean he might find it one day. But till that day this is what he said to me. Well some it anyway.

i dont like no why im annoyed i
thinks
cause i feel like i dont no what i want any more and what with exams im
staring to get realy distant and pissed off at neraly everyone for like
no
reason so if i get pissed at you then im sorry its jhust the way i am
at the
mo. also im !f*cking! fed up of beign single so that the rason for the
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how are you you goin out to night.

love sam x-x-x


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I think his parents are pressuring him to get A's and A* for his GCSE's and it's getting him really down, they make him do 3 hours revision before he can even come out and they just expect him to turn these grades out.

So he's not pissed at me personally, he's pissed at the world.  I'm just going to have to cheer him up...somehow.

Nothing I can do about the 'being single' thing though.
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« Reply #72 on: May 02, 2005, 01:16:58 pm »
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Oh yes you can ahum

It is as you say, he is not mad at you so that's a good thing. Poor boy he has to study that much .
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« Reply #73 on: May 02, 2005, 02:25:15 pm »
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Oh yes you can ahum

Haha! Whatever Lies. lol

He has his eye on a girl call Laura. Well I think he has *Not me*. I'm sure the boy will get a girl soon he's goodlooking enough. But I mean he's 16. Why worry?
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« Reply #74 on: May 02, 2005, 04:48:08 pm »
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hey everyone! I'm in a bit of a problem again. you see, you know how I told you my BFF and that guy were going out now? well, it turns out... he was just joking when he asked her! he told me later online that he was just messing around when his friend was over, and she took it seriously! now, since my BFF said yes, the guy has to be her BF. so, just now my BFF kept saying, "he's not acting like he likes me! he doesnt even look at me!" and toher things like that. I really really wanna tell her that he wasnt serious, but I'm too afraid of hurting her! i told the guy to tell her, but he wont! i dont know what to do! I feel so bad for my BFF!!!    Thanks!
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