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« Reply #1155 on: June 08, 2009, 10:23:32 am »
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I have told mary this in a pm also wrote a poem on it. The other day I went as far as running a knife over my arm but not enough to draw blood

I have recently told Mark. I feel better since I have told somebody and wrote the poem.

Just thought I would let you all know as you are all my friends

I will pm someone here or tell Mark if I feel the urge again(I hope I dont)
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« Reply #1156 on: July 26, 2009, 11:08:00 pm »
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Quote from: miss sixty on June 08, 2009, 10:23:32 am   

I have told mary this in a pm also wrote a poem on it. The other day I went as far as running a knife over my arm but not enough to draw blood

I have recently told Mark. I feel better since I have told somebody and wrote the poem.

Just thought I would let you all know as you are all my friends

I will pm someone here or tell Mark if I feel the urge again(I hope I dont)

I really wish you would try to find some help. Speaking with a counselor is honestly nothing to be ashamed about. Maybe they would be able to help you or give you some medicine that would take those thoughts away. 
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« Reply #1157 on: July 27, 2009, 05:00:13 am »
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thanks for your concern Jess, I am out of work right now so can't afford counselling. I will consider it once in work and if I get those feelings again.
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« Reply #1158 on: September 09, 2009, 04:39:06 am »
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I haven't had these images or thoughts for a month now and I have been sad. I think I may be slowly getting better..
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« Reply #1159 on: September 09, 2009, 06:43:40 am »
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Like I said in reply to your poem, I think it's great that you're getting over your depression, and I also think it's a good sign that you recognise that you are - that'll motivate you.  Keep it up!  
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« Reply #1160 on: September 09, 2009, 11:04:43 am »
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thanks mary, I could do with some motivation. Your comments mean a lot
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« Reply #1161 on: September 22, 2009, 01:28:30 pm »
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Alright ladies and gentlemen.  This is going to sound so Goddamn ridiculous but I have to get it off my chest.  We're moving soon and I don't care one iota about leaving this neighborhood or this house.  It's not my home.  But the thing that has me in tears at my keyboard right now is that I', going to be leaving Stewie and Ice behind aswell as Milo; my brothers cat, and Emerald; a friends budgie.  They are all buried in our garden and even though I know that it's stupid it really hurts to think they won't be close anymore.
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« Reply #1162 on: September 22, 2009, 02:02:22 pm »
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Quote from: Damita Jackson on September 22, 2009, 01:28:30 pm   

Alright ladies and gentlemen.  This is going to sound so Goddamn ridiculous but I have to get it off my chest.  We're moving soon and I don't care one iota about leaving this neighborhood or this house.  It's not my home.  But the thing that has me in tears at my keyboard right now is that I', going to be leaving Stewie and Ice behind aswell as Milo; my brothers cat, and Emerald; a friends budgie.  They are all buried in our garden and even though I know that it's stupid it really hurts to think they won't be close anymore.

It doesn't sound ridiculous hun but wherever you move to they will be with you in your heart. PM me if ever you need
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« Reply #1163 on: September 22, 2009, 03:34:45 pm »
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ok, i have a issue...again...

uh, well, i liked this boy last year the whole time. i thought he was different from the other boys...he wasn't loud, he wasn't mean...he was...a loner, like me. so, at the end of last year, i wrote him a letter over the summer. all it said was that i wanted to hang out with him and get to know him cause he seemed different and cool and to write back if he wanted to hang out. and ya know what he did???! he wrote back saying that he would never wanna hang out with me or be my friend or anything! i worked so hard on the letter i wrote to him and he just wrote this small, (but very hurtful), rejection right back at me! i was so sad and embarrassed. but, this year, i'm just plain mad! cause ya know what that kid did next??? he is pretending like none of it happened and is flirting with another girl i walk home with! see, me, him, and the other girl walk home from school together for a while until we come to three separate roads which lead us to our houses. well, he has been flirting with her and it makes me feel even more rejected.

well...thats it. i don't expect anyone to help me with this...i just wanted to get this crap out of me and tell people for once! it's like, the more i hold in all my pain, the worse it becomes. so, basically, i'm just venting. but, if you wanna post something about this or whatever, you can.

i hate boys... i don't think i'll ever crush on a guy again...at least, not this year.

-jen

P.S: Danny, no offence to your gender or whatever. i mean, i hate the boys in my school. LOL!
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« Reply #1164 on: September 22, 2009, 05:53:48 pm »
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that must have been hard for you Jen but don't take it personally sweetie, your going to like having crushes on boys again I promise. Your still young have fun and enjoy your life
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« Reply #1165 on: September 22, 2009, 05:56:39 pm »
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that must have been hard for you Jen but don't take it personally sweetie, your going to like having crushes on boys again I promise. Your still young have fun and enjoy your life

thanks, liz.
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« Reply #1166 on: September 23, 2009, 06:06:17 am »
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Victoria - I understand you.  Are you moving far away?  Your pets will always be with you in your mind. 

Jen - that boy sounds a complete....well, I can't say the word here.  You reached out to him in the best way possible, and all he did was reject you? You deserve better than him anyway.  He ought to be ashamed of himself.  If someone had gone to the trouble of writing me a lovely letter I would have jumped at the chance.  It's his problem, not yours. 
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« Reply #1167 on: September 23, 2009, 08:35:26 am »
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Vicky, I don't think it's that weird at all. I guess I'd have the same thing, if I were as close with my pets as you were.

Jenny, Jenny, Jenny... Boys... I know you're mad right now because he's flirting with that girl (and also jealous, even if you don't want to admit) but it's really not THAT wrong to pretend nothing has happened. I mean... he was a big meany, writing these hurtful things to you... But now he just doesn't really want to talk about it anymore and he is not into you, so he's got the right to flirt with someone else. Think about it... What would you do if there was a boy who liked you and you didn't like him back... but you did like his friend or the boy he walks home with? Wouldn't you reject that first boy and flirt with that second boy? Of course you would! Obviously, he shouldn't have written you that hurtful letter back, but if you really think of it, he isn't doing anything too wrong right now.

And for the 'never crushing again'... believe me: YOU WILL *evil laugh* 
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« Reply #1168 on: September 23, 2009, 03:32:17 pm »
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Vicky, I don't think it's that weird at all. I guess I'd have the same thing, if I were as close with my pets as you were.

Jenny, Jenny, Jenny... Boys... I know you're mad right now because he's flirting with that girl (and also jealous, even if you don't want to admit) but it's really not THAT wrong to pretend nothing has happened. I mean... he was a big meany, writing these hurtful things to you... But now he just doesn't really want to talk about it anymore and he is not into you, so he's got the right to flirt with someone else. Think about it... What would you do if there was a boy who liked you and you didn't like him back... but you did like his friend or the boy he walks home with? Wouldn't you reject that first boy and flirt with that second boy? Of course you would! Obviously, he shouldn't have written you that hurtful letter back, but if you really think of it, he isn't doing anything too wrong right now.

And for the 'never crushing again'... believe me: YOU WILL *evil laugh* 

look, um...i know that you meant to make me feel better but this makes me feel worse...i know that he has the right to flirt but...heres my opinion:

he KNOWS i'm upset about his response. you know, i would have felt a lot better about the rejection and him not feeling the same way if he hadn't written what he had wrote right back at me. he could have been SO much kinder. and, he could've been nice to me in school.

i know that he thought of how i would feel and how it affects me inside when he starts flirting with another girl. he never did. or, he did think of it and just doesn't care. and, that IS wrong!!

and, you know, i have to disagree with the part where you said i would flirt with someone else if i were in his shoes right now...

i'm not that kind of person. honestly, i don't think i would. if someone liked me, (for some unknown, crazy reason), and they wrote me a letter, the kind of heartfelt letter i wrote to the boy i liked, i would read it and say, "wow...thats really nice!" and even if i didn't like him back that way, i would thank him for being so brave and nice and i would probably not reject him for the whole rest of the school year and the year after that and so on, (like the boy i liked did.) nor would i start intentionally flirting with someone else right in front of him, (like the boy did.)

i'm just making a point, pam. please, don't get mad at me for disagreeing with what you said. you have your opinion and i have mine, i guess. it's ok too. i was just making MY own point for once. thats all.
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« Reply #1169 on: September 23, 2009, 04:24:25 pm »
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Pam; it depends on whether he started flirting with this other girl after Jen gave him her letter.  If he did then it's obviously designed to deliberately hurt her feelings which is wrong.  He's not a baby anymore; he knows that actions have consequences.  And that by acting this way with the girl he is hurting Jen.

And like Jen has already said; if I was in his shoes I wouldn't be flirting outrageoulsy with the first guy that passed my way.  I don't fly like that.  I was brought up to respect the other person's feelings and I'm sure many of us have.

Jen; I suggest you just ignore him.  I'm sure you've realised by now that this guy is just an arrogant pig who doesn't know a good girl when he sees one.

Stay strong and remember that nasty boys don't mean a thing
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