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« Reply #1065 on: August 17, 2008, 10:19:44 am »
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Victoria - that's really sad to read.  You probably don't want to hear this, but you are beautiful (I've seen this pics, and yes, you are!) and anyway beauty comes from within, personality, which you have in bucketloads.  If you really feel inscure about your weight, I bet your parents would be 100% behind you if you talked to them. Plenty of healthy food couldn't go amiss for the whole family anyway.   Good luck.  If you want support, it's here.  And Tafika's idea about trwating yourself isn't a bad one.  Focus on the good points of yourself.

Elizabeth - sorry to hear your job searching hasn't really amounted to anything.  I'm probably not great at giving any advice here, never having had a job - but if nothing turns up, maybe adult education would work? My mum did a course in crafts a few years ago and she had a great time, made loads of new friends and learnt new skills.  It would certainly be a way of passing the time so you wouldn't be so lonely. Good luck anyway and let us know how you're getting on. 

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« Reply #1066 on: August 17, 2008, 01:02:13 pm »
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Thank you so much to everone for your replies

I've started a diet and I'm sticking to it, to Hell with junk food   As soon as my heat rash clears up I'm gonna be straihgt onto the bike working out, I always feel great after working out.  And as for the 'treating myself' my Mom and Dad have bought me a new Michael Jackson CD (if you know me, you'll know this is a huge treat ) and I got some black nail varnish today, I love it so much
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« Reply #1067 on: August 17, 2008, 01:06:43 pm »
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Victoria don't starve yourself or throw up! I went there and I can tell you... it makes you feel even more miserable! don't even consider trying it...
Instead of doing unhealthy things in order to lose weight, try these things:
  • do your own shopping! if your mom won't buy you the food you need, just go buy it yourself! you're old enough to pick up some healthy food, right? If you start eating fresh veggies and less fat, you will feel so much better! I even find myself less hungry when I eat healthily.
  • oh no, not the most annoying word ever:exercise! I hate exercising, but really, if you want to lose weight, you have to... and if you see the results and you drop some weight, it's deffo worth it! And no, you don't have to run around the world twice every day, you don't even have to go to the gym... just leav the car and go by bike, or just take a nice walk in the parc... I don't know... run up and down the stairs a couple of times a day, you might even go rope skipping!!! It's a nice way to get your work out... Or go dancing!! That's always fun!!
  • wear different clothes what? yes, different clothes. "bigger" people tend to wear slobby black all the time. You hav better drop the black and go for color and buy clothes that actually FIT!! women usually think that if you wear slobbery clothes that you can't see the fat anymore... no we can't... but we can't see any figure at all either... it's like... you look twice as "big" as you are!!


Sweetheart, if you just change the way you eat and move you body around, it will all be okay. I know it's hard to say no to a piece of chocolate, but hey... no pain, no gain... And remember: after you've lost the amount of weight you wanted, you can eat chocolate again. The only thing you've got to do then, is just take care of yourself and make sure that you don't eat too much anymore...

Oh and in the beginning you might feel hungry a little when you start to eat a little less... but after a couple of days your stomach will shrink, so you don't need as much food anymore... you see what I mean??

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Elizabeth I don't know what to say about this either... have you talked about this with Mark yet? I also think Mary's idea is a good one... maybe you could try that?
Good luck!!!!
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« Reply #1068 on: August 17, 2008, 05:21:46 pm »
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Thanks pam and mary I dont think adult education would be good for me as I tend to withdraw from people and alienate myself.

Don't know if I can do it on the type of visa I have either..

I will keep you updated with my job hunting and when I get a job

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« Reply #1069 on: August 30, 2008, 06:37:08 pm »
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Huz-bands are a piece of work.  They will gripe about one thing, and then later gripe about it's opposite.  Why can't they be specific in what they want.

My husband is a hypocrite.  And I was thin and young when I met him. 

It's sad when someone you couldn't wait to see or hear from once, later becomes someone you perpetually avoid because....

A. He's obsessed with his boring hobies

B. He's perpetually cranky

C.) Both of the above.

My husband is beautiful (in my eyes) but I have NOTHING in common with him.  The only thing we both like to do that's the same is eat, and that won't help either of us.

Ok, there's my gripe.
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« Reply #1070 on: August 30, 2008, 06:56:58 pm »
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How long have you been married Emily?

I have only been married for 5 years and 3 months but we have been together for 10 years, moved out after 3 yrs and lived together for 2 yrs before marrying..

We both love each other so much my mum says we are special We fall out but have never argued just fell out, Mark is very laid back so takes things in his stride..When we fall out we always make up quickly cos we hate to be angry with each other..

A healthy marriage has it's ups and downs but it is love that conquers all

You say he is cranky, lolz, it is me who is the cranky one in our relationship, moody, depressed..but get me out of the house doing something in the fresh air I will cheer up..

We dont have everything in common but we love a good film, good walks, coffees out, cinema, eating out/picnics, takeaways and NZ!!!!!

Start afresh tonite Em, do something he wouldn't expect you to, surprise him

Look for the good in your marriage, hug and kiss him when he returns from work, say I love you every day, snuggle with him on the sofa, go out enjoy a good walk, after work is even better to destress..

You'll be ok
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« Reply #1071 on: August 30, 2008, 07:11:54 pm »
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We are going on 10 years and he has been on my nerves for the last 9 of them.

I do hug him every possible chance I get, but I don't know how to surprise him anymore.   I do sometimes but it's just one of those things.

It's honestly probably not a big deal I mean we go through this every so often I guess.
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« Reply #1072 on: August 30, 2008, 07:15:43 pm »
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The WORST thing about Bill is he never wants to do anything,not horse back riding, not traveling, he's perpetualy a home body.

It was cool when we were younger and broke coz...???, no extra money spent, but now it's like, come on guy this is our lives y'know we have to go out and do something.
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« Reply #1073 on: August 30, 2008, 07:20:38 pm »
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He sounds like what I used to be like , Mark had to talk me into travelling and then I never looked back

Of course it is a big deal!! You tried marriage counselling?..

If nothing else works then you go out to the pub with your mates, like he does make HIM jealous
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« Reply #1074 on: August 30, 2008, 07:23:53 pm »
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He has always gotten extremely jealous over the littlest things.  I do go out without him and him without me.  I almost never get jealous, its just we only seldom go out "together". He hates my friends and I am not a big fan of most of his, don't ask me how we made it this long but we always pull through.

He would never agree to horse back riding let alone marriage counceling, but I have a good mind to go put on "my face" and go surprise him at the pub.  Don't know why I'm worried, I ussualy don't care.
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« Reply #1075 on: August 30, 2008, 07:24:45 pm »
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BTW how did Mark talk you into doing stuff?
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« Reply #1076 on: August 30, 2008, 07:34:01 pm »
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Yeah you go to the pub, you can do it

I didnt take much persuading actually, he just said you only live once it will be a good thing for us to do and we knew we liked NZ cos came on holiday here last yr..I had lost my job though so had nothing keeping me here..

Off to make lunch before the film, may talk later if not, have a good evening
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« Reply #1077 on: August 30, 2008, 07:39:14 pm »
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You too sweetie, I'm gonna logg off and "debate" surprising Bill at the bar.  I might, I'll let you know.

You'd think after years and years these "debates" wouldn't happen anymore...but they still do.


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« Reply #1078 on: August 30, 2008, 08:40:48 pm »
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No worries, hope everything works out

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« Reply #1079 on: October 12, 2008, 09:45:11 pm »
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Wow...this thread sure is quiet! 
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