Home Help Search Login twitter
  November 26, 2014, 11:20:35 am fans online at A+F Welcome, Guest. Please Login to gain full access.  
Please be advised that the message board is read-only, and that member login has been disabled.
  Always & Forever // Messageboard
  « Other »
  Members & Newbies
(Moderators: Flummoxed., Brenda, Solskie, Deenan (O.L.C.), Yeux de bleu, Harmonica!, Lisbeth Salander)
  The A+F agony aunts.
« previous next »
Pages: 1 2 [3] 4 5 ... 80 Reply Notify of replies Send the topic Print
   Author  Topic: The A+F agony aunts.  (Read 34121 times)
Jess_B
~*Definition of Obsession*~
*
*****

Offline

Gender: Female
Posts: 2628



Bath time! Woot!
allroundsprtzgrl
View Profile
Re:The A+F agony aunts.
« Reply #30 on: April 21, 2005, 07:32:06 pm »
Reply with quote

Monkey, your friend has a crush... lol, a really big one... and she is trying to impress this guy. Trying to make it to where they have stuff in common and such. I wouldn't change the name of the band if everyone else likes it... tell her to grow up and think for herself instead of doing whatever that dude tells her.


Quote:
Comfy men stomaches make the best pillows. So you're not compleately alienated by this guy then Jess?

No, i see him all the time. He's just gotten to where he doesn't talk to me much. He was a little better today... but not much. As of... yesterday, i believe, he has a girlfriend. ... but i don't think he really likes her. He was still over there w/ sam at lunch flirting w/ her... saying how hot she was and what not... and you could telll he still really liked her. I think i've figured out y he's not atttracted to me, though. It's because i don't have a lip ring. He says that sam's lip ring is hot, and his "girlfriend" has her lip and nose pierced... so i guess i just don't have the "thing" he's looking for. ... oh well, i'm use to that by now. ... and i'll still go on liking him... but, that's just me. I'm obsessive and pathetic. 
Report to moderator   Logged

Stop reading my signature. Don't deny it. You're reading it. I can see you. You're giving it the casual little once-over. How rude. Didn't your mother teach you better?
Flummoxed.
Kiwi at heart.
Global Moderator
*****

Offline

Gender: Female
Posts: 4108



Dance dance Orc.
FancierOfHobbits
View Profile
Re:The A+F agony aunts.
« Reply #31 on: April 21, 2005, 09:02:01 pm »
Reply with quote

Monkey - Yes, your friend is definitely crushing - big time. The way she is acting is not cool for a few reasons: Number One, it sounds like you liked him first, and it's kind of an unwritten rule that you don't steal your best friend's crush. Number Two, she shouldn't be changing herself to impress one guy. It's not true to who she is, and it will undoubtedly come back to bite her in the arse before it's all said and done. And Number Three, she should not be ditching her friends for this guy, either. Because if you abandon your friends for a relationship, they get mad. And then when the relationship ends, and you've ostracized all your friends, what do you have left?

I think you need to sit down and talk to her. Ask her if your friendship and, ultimately, her identity are worth putting in jeopardy for one flirtatious guy. Explain to her that she's great and likeable just the way she is, and that she should never change herself for anybody. If she's not willing to see what she's doing to your friendship, and continues to conform to the views of this guy, then maybe it's time to reevaluate things.

But definitely talk to her. If you ignore it, most likely things will only get worse.

Jess - Not that it sounds like you're considering changing yourself or anything (in fact, a lot of what you've said in the past leads me to believe you're very strong in who you are), but if you're thinking that that lip ring might be a good idea, read some of what I just posted up there to Monkey.

Changing yourself for a guy is the worst thing you can do. It's lying to yourself, and if you do it, you will regret it eventually.

You're a wonderful girl, no matter what this Jesse guy thinks. If he doesn't like you back, well, you can't win them all, honey. Don't make it out to be all your fault; that you're not good enough for him or whatever. Some people just don't match up, and this may be one of those cases. It hurts, and it majorly sucks, but there's nothing you can really do about it. You're not pathetic. Stop talking yourself down so much, girl! 
Report to moderator   Logged

The July Fellowship atop Edoras.

I went there... and back again. New Zealand RULES!
~LadyDee~
Forum Chatterbox
***

Offline

Gender: Female
Posts: 493



Love is like OXYGEN
deeawwnuh elijahssexyluva
View Profile
Re:The A+F agony aunts.
« Reply #32 on: April 21, 2005, 09:55:41 pm »
Reply with quote

Everyone is giving really awesome advice, I'm sure Jackie would be proud.

I myself don't normally ask for advice on the boards but there are a couple of things that have me feeling a bit under the weather so here goes...

First of all I have this situation with the people on my floor, mainly the people in my floor government. See, I don't want to say that they are racist cause thats kind of mean but I am the only Latin person on our floor hence and the only person of color on our floor government and I've always felt alienated by them since the begining of the year. I've tried making friends with them and so far only have gotten to a "hi and bye" basis with most of them. Thus I turned to other latin organizations on campus because I felt more accepted there. So one of the organizations that I am involved with was putting on a play and I was the lead actress so this play meant a lot to me. I decided then to announce the play at our floor government meeting last monday since they play would be wednesday. During my announcement, however, everyone chose to ignore me!  The minute I said that this event was about the Latin culture they tuned out. You guys might think I am exagerating but they literally just turned their heads and started their own conversations. I thought it was very very very rude. But since I am "too nice" I didn't say anything..just quietly finished my announcement and sat back down. I didn't say anything else, but now I feel I should have...elijahs_girl has already adviced me to call them on how rude they were but I don't know if I can

and then there is Dilema number 2...its about a guy (another guy problem) As I mentioned earlier I was the lead in a play which we performed yesterday and it all went really great. I however have fallen head over heels for one of the guys in the play. He seriously is so cute and sweet. He would do all these things to get my attention and touch me in little ways like tickling or something. He even bought me a Banana split yesterday cause it was my birthday. The thing is that he is such a flirt so I don't know if he might actually like me back or if he is just like that with all girls. And now the play is over so I won't see him anymore unless I see him on campus or something which seems unlikely but I really want to see him. I can't stop thinking about all the cool moments with him...but am I deceiving myself to think that he actually likes me back?

and 3rd I think I may have some sort of bipolar disorder  I get like these random rushes of energy and then feel completely depressed. I'm kept debating over being in love with the guy I mentioned about and forgetting about him. And right now I'm feeling like I should party (since yesterday was my birthday) but I'm kind of feeling depressed and not worthy to do anything at the same time. I feel like I'm not special anymore since my birthday already passed but i never got to really celebrate my birthday so I REALLY want to do something....yet I'm cranky at the same time...argh...all this thinking is giving me a headache...why can't life be simple?

I'm so confuzzled    (that is confused and puzzled at the same time)

~Diana
Report to moderator   Logged


Thanks Chanterella!


SMILE!...cause you never know who is watching.
Jess_B
~*Definition of Obsession*~
*
*****

Offline

Gender: Female
Posts: 2628



Bath time! Woot!
allroundsprtzgrl
View Profile
Re:The A+F agony aunts.
« Reply #33 on: April 23, 2005, 01:28:32 pm »
Reply with quote


Quote from: ~LadyDee~ on April 21, 2005, 09:55:41 pm   


and then there is Dilema number 2...its about a guy (another guy problem) As I mentioned earlier I was the lead in a play which we performed yesterday and it all went really great. I however have fallen head over heels for one of the guys in the play. He seriously is so cute and sweet. He would do all these things to get my attention and touch me in little ways like tickling or something. He even bought me a Banana split yesterday cause it was my birthday. The thing is that he is such a flirt so I don't know if he might actually like me back or if he is just like that with all girls. And now the play is over so I won't see him anymore unless I see him on campus or something which seems unlikely but I really want to see him. I can't stop thinking about all the cool moments with him...but am I deceiving myself to think that he actually likes me back?
Hey, girl. I have actually went through stuff very similar to what you are currently going through (except the racisim stuff... I've always lived in a neighborhood where my race is "dominant" ... so i've never really been faced with that. Hence, i didn't reply... i don't know what to say, except good luck... some people can be so shallow about things like that sometimes... just hang in there, love.) Ok, as far as the guy goes. ... Say he's like that with everyone? Well, i know that it is just in some guy's natures to be flirts... sometimes they flirt and don't even realise it, BUT, sometimes they know exactly what they're doing... If this guy really flirts with everyone, well, you can't really be sure as to whom he likes. He may very well like you, which, from what i've heard, is a good possiblity... but he may just view you as a good friend... perhaps you should propose that you two go to get a bite to eat... or go to a movie. maybe you'll find more out after u hang out more. 

You may have noticed me talking about this jesse guy... well, i first saw him just in the halls every day... going to one class period. just once a day... well, i noticed him enough then to start looking for him more, to see if i see him more often. Turns out, he has my lunch too... then i noticed when he went through the lunch line... it was a pretty consistant time, so i started going through the lunchline with him. Then one day, i walked a different way to my class... and wouldn't you know that he walks the same way to get to his class? Now i see him probably 4 or 5 times a day... just from observing my surroundings and taking different routes to places. Perhaps you should do the same thing. Keep your eyes open next time you go somewhere... try taking the senic route to a class, maybe you'll run into him. It's always a possiblility... my school has 2000+ kids in it, and Jesse isn't even in my grade... i know a college campus would be a lil more difficult... but i think u might be able to pull it off. Good luck, hun.


Quote:

and 3rd I think I may have some sort of bipolar disorder  I get like these random rushes of energy and then feel completely depressed. I'm kept debating over being in love with the guy I mentioned about and forgetting about him. And right now I'm feeling like I should party (since yesterday was my birthday) but I'm kind of feeling depressed and not worthy to do anything at the same time. I feel like I'm not special anymore since my birthday already passed but i never got to really celebrate my birthday so I REALLY want to do something....yet I'm cranky at the same time...argh...all this thinking is giving me a headache...why can't life be simple?
You may be bipolar... but i kinda doubt it. Though you may want to see the doctor, anyway... But it sounds more to me like you're just having mood swings. I do the same thing. I'll be totally happy one day, and then the next... i hate myself. I just sit there and loathe everything about me. I'll feel like i'm worthless, and i'll make myself eat so i'll get fatter and hate me more... or i won't eat anything so that i feel the pain and discomfort caused from it. ... and then, i'll be happy the next day! lol... i think girls are just programed to have those sorta mood swings. 



Quote:
Changing yourself for a guy is the worst thing you can do. It's lying to yourself, and if you do it, you will regret it eventually.

Yeah, i realized that. I sat there and thought about it one day... I decided that i don't want a lip ring, and if i got one for him... that would be stupid, because i probably won't even like him in a month or so. I have considered getting my nose pierced in the past... i've always liked that little stud on your nose... but even if i do do that, it probably will not be until after high school.

and, besides that, he's breaking up with his girlfriend! lol, he dated her for 3 days... and he's dumping her. awww, what he said yesterday made me go "awwwwwwwwww" at lunch, though. He was talking to sam and he said, "Sam... Sam! {because sam was ignoring him... she really doesn't like him... like... at all anymore} I give up, ok sam? I'm going to stop trying. you come to me when you're ready, because i'm going to stop." awww... i sat there and just said "awwwwwwwwwwwwwwww" lol, he kinda looked at me and laughed... but i really felt so sorry for him. cause sam just said something like, "yeah, ok." and went back to ignoring him. I told her and Jesse's/my friend that they could tell him i think he's hot. lol, i don't really care anymore. If he wants to shove it in my face, or ignore me, or make fun of me... whatever... because he knows, let him. I figure i only have like... 21 more days of school left, and he won't remember over the summer. So i guess we'll see what, if anything, happens on monday/tuesday. lol, wish me luck. 
Report to moderator   Logged

Stop reading my signature. Don't deny it. You're reading it. I can see you. You're giving it the casual little once-over. How rude. Didn't your mother teach you better?
LegolasBuzzgirl
O_o huh?
*
*****

Offline

Gender: Female
Posts: 2802



I'm a little teapot...

View Profile WWW
Re:The A+F agony aunts.
« Reply #34 on: April 23, 2005, 01:34:14 pm »
Reply with quote

Monkey- I really think the advice above is right- you need to talk to your friend. Explain that you're not gonna change the band name over something a boy who has not even heard you (I assume- correct me if I'm wrong) has said. I mean, when you get right down to it, what sort of name is 'slipknot' or 'Queen'? And they're mega successful. But don't make that the main issue. Ask her whats up. She may not even have notice that she's acting any different. When you fancy someone you'll do anything to get them, and this may sadly alienate your friends without you knowing it. And if she refuses to acknowledge she's doing anything different, point it out every time she does (like the slipknot example- next time she does something similar ask 'When did you decide that?'0. Be careful if you do tho, 'cos she could take it as you been a bitch.

Jess- You probably don't wnat to hear this, but if this guy is seriously flirting (not just play flirting) with someone else when he has a girlfriend, do you really want him? Would you ever trust him? It might be worth re-evaluating your crush. Which is hard, granted, but...

Ladydee- D1- That's totally out of order, blanking you like that! Even if you're not interested in something it's polite to listen. Maybe you could stand up and thank all those who attended, and wait for the embarrassed/ blank looks,  sort of an ironic hint that they were being rude. 
D2- If you never see the guy, he wasn't serious. If he makes the effort to see you he probably was. Enjoy the flirting you did and don't give up on him, but if nothing happens you had fun. (wow Ruth- your advice is pants... lol)
D3- Don't rush to diagnose yourself- you might be worrying unduly. How long has it been going on? If it's been constant for a while then go see a doctor and get a proper evaluation of your mental health done. If it is bi-polar, then you can get all the information and support you need. If it isn't, you may just be going through a bit of a slump. Good health! *Crosses fingers*
Report to moderator   Logged




New fic up in the misc section. click banner for link.
Jess_B
~*Definition of Obsession*~
*
*****

Offline

Gender: Female
Posts: 2628



Bath time! Woot!
allroundsprtzgrl
View Profile
Re:The A+F agony aunts.
« Reply #35 on: April 23, 2005, 01:48:23 pm »
Reply with quote


Quote from: LegolasBuzzgirl on April 23, 2005, 01:34:14 pm   


Jess- You probably don't wnat to hear this, but if this guy is seriously flirting (not just play flirting) with someone else when he has a girlfriend, do you really want him? Would you ever trust him? It might be worth re-evaluating your crush. Which is hard, granted, but...

lol, you don't have to tell me that... i've already thought about it... over and over again...  He has the amazing ability to like several people at one time... but, of course, so do i... i just chose one that i like best, as does he. I really think he was just trying out the jealousy act... when he realized that sam wasn't falling for it, he decided he didn't need a girlfriend. To be honest, i don't really expect much of a relationship to develop with him... but you never really know what he's going to say/do. ... which is kinda y i like hanging around with him... he's such an unpredictable person. and if he does "what it takes" to date me, he'll have to like me... because i don't think a guy would go through what he'd have to to "pass daddy's inspection" if he really didn't like me. It will just depend on if he realizes that sam doesn't like him... and, as it is starting to look, never will. The ball is currently in his court, and it'll be up to him to decide what he's going to do... if he doesn't play the ball right, though... no, he won't have a relationship with me... whethere i like him or not.
Report to moderator   Logged

Stop reading my signature. Don't deny it. You're reading it. I can see you. You're giving it the casual little once-over. How rude. Didn't your mother teach you better?
Artanis
"Differences of habit and language are nothing at all if our aims are identical and our hearts are open."
*
*****

Offline

Gender: Female
Posts: 1927



~Always and Forever~

View Profile
Re:The A+F agony aunts.
« Reply #36 on: April 23, 2005, 03:05:40 pm »
Reply with quote

Hi aunts ,

I have a bit of a problem, well sort of, it is more like a feeling.

My best friend has recently started dating someone and I really feel a bit sad. Don't know why. I guess i'm a bit jealous because i get less attention and I have to listen to all his stories about how good their time is together and stuff so I feel even more depressed that i'm still single .

I don't know what to do, and I a find it very hard to get out and meet new people

Hope you guys understand a bit what I mean...
Report to moderator   Logged


~Special thanks to the awesome Brenda, for the avatar~
Jess_B
~*Definition of Obsession*~
*
*****

Offline

Gender: Female
Posts: 2628



Bath time! Woot!
allroundsprtzgrl
View Profile
Re:The A+F agony aunts.
« Reply #37 on: April 23, 2005, 08:18:29 pm »
Reply with quote

Artanis Elensar

hey 

I know how that is... when your best friend gets a boyfriend (or, as it sounds in your case, a girlfriend.) But just because they have that "significant other" doesn't mean that they still can't be your friend. If you wanted to take this opportunity to become better friends with other people, then you should take it... but you don't HAVE to quit being friends with your friend. Plus, when people first start going out, they are usually pretty obsessed with eachother for a month or two... but it will probly lessen a little in a while, and he'll go back to being more like the friend you were use to. Good luck. 
Report to moderator   Logged

Stop reading my signature. Don't deny it. You're reading it. I can see you. You're giving it the casual little once-over. How rude. Didn't your mother teach you better?
LittleDayDream
Guest
Re:The A+F agony aunts.
« Reply #38 on: April 24, 2005, 10:42:48 am »
Reply with quote

What a great idea, an agony aunties threat! 

I'll just join here... Today with some kind of advice (which is hopefully helpful, if not - well, it shouldn't hurt anyway  ), because I am lucky enough not to have any problems, but it's a good thing to know that there is a place where one can always come if one needs 

Lies
Awwwww, hun, I know how you feel... As long as nobody around you has what you are missing, you don't realize very much that something is missing, but as soon as somebody gets it you start to realize that it's not there for you too... And starts hurting even more... If you understand my confused sentence.
First of all you should trust in your friend, that s/he won't abandon you now - just because s/he now is in a relationship  it doesn't mean that you can't still be best friends! It depends on the personality of your friend whether or not s/he only lives in and for the relationship or also has an independent life alone.
Don't feel bad for being slightly jealous, it is totally normal to feel that way! As long as your still happy for your friend 
As for the 'meeting new people thing', just give it a try and hang out with your friends and your friends friends somewhere, I'm sure that after some time you will realize that it is not as difficult as it seems, after all you are a lovely person and surely the people will realize that! Don't be afraid... And good luck! and trust an old auntie on this one: you'll find your perfect someone soon enough! Just don't give up hope!  

Jess_B
That does sound like a difficult situation... I really hope it will work out fine for all three of you in the ending, however the solution might look like!
It seems to me that none of you really knows what you really want... I might be wrong, it's just my impression that neither Sam knows what she is trying to reach by treating Jesse like that - or why she is doing that - nor do you really know what you are hoping for? (Tell me if I am mistaken! It is after all just a personal impression.)
There may be many different reasons why she is acting like that, some of which have already been analyzed here in a great way, for excample her having a crush on him and not admitting it, or her loving the attention she gets... But have you ever thought about it, that she also might like the attention she is getting from you when she acts like that? Because she always askes you to come with her when she plans to tease Jesse... She doesn't necessarily intend to do so, maybe she just feels insecure and uncomfortable with herself and doesn't know any other way to get attention?
In any case you should tell her that he is a human being and not some kind of toy with which she can play as much as she wants to without braking it. Because for him it is obviously more than just a game!
And you should try and get your own feelings, wishes and dreams sorted out... Totally independent from whether he likes you or ever will, just what you yourself really want, no matter how realistic it is... Which is probably more difficult than anything else (for me at least it usually is  I can never decide what I want)... Do you want to have a proper relationship with him? Or do you just want to have a nice flirt? Or do you just want to dream a little bit? Or maybe even just attention (just throwing random possibilities in here, not saying that it must be the truth  )? Or do you just want to help him? Or maybe nothing at all? I think once you've figured it out it is much easier to decide what actions to take next...
Sorry for the crappy advice, maybe I should better shut up before I try to help  But hopefully you get the idea!
Good luck to you anyway 

Monkey
Don't say you're acting immature, you're not! It's her who is acting immature, and you have every right to be pissed if she treats you like that. She obviously has a problem with her self-confidence and is frightened that she might loose him if she isn't cool enough, but what she doesn't realize is, that he will probably dumpe her soon if she acts like a doll without own personality (sorry for the harsh words here, but if she acts like that she appears that way, even if she truly is different). He liked her before, when she still had her own views on things, so why should she change? If she's not the person he initially liked anymore, why should he keep on liking her?
Well, after all it is her decision what she does with her relationship, and at the moment she will probably not listen to any advice anyway because things are going 'well' for her, but as far as your friendship is concerned you should definitely tell her straight out that she is possibly ruining it when she dumpes you for her 'cool new friends'. Make it clear to her, how much she means to you and that you don't want to loose her, that you like her for her own special personality and not for what people make of her...
I hope she'll realize what she does soon! And that everything works out fine in the ending...!

Lady Dee
Number 1: if people treat you like that, they are just arrogant and ignorant people and definitely don't deserve knowing a wonderful person like you! Don't let them get you down, they are just not worth it.   
Number 2: As long as you don't see him again, you won't be able to tell whether he likes you for real or not, that much is for sure (lol, not that you didn't know that anyway  ), but it certainly doesn't sound as if he isn't interested at all, so chances are he really likes you! So, as soon as you see him somewhere, try to 'grab' him and talk to him, see if he likes to go and drink a coffee or whatever with you, talk about the 'good old times' and such... Just try to spend some time with him and see how he reacts. He sounds like a cute guy, so I hope you two get your chance!! 
Number 3: Don't worry about your mood-swifts too much, they are normal to a certain degree. Sure, some people change moods more often, others always appear to be happy, but the way you are telling it doesn't sound like you have bipolar disorder - the most important thing there is, that you are worried to have it, because a person with a real problem wouldn't admit it that freely (that is part of all 'depressions', not to admit it). You might want to go to a doctor or a psychologist anyway, because 1) there always might be a physical thing be going on (hormones, whatever) and 2) it's never wrong to be sure about these kind of things things!
So, good luck to you! 

xxx
Report to moderator   Logged
~LadyDee~
Forum Chatterbox
***

Offline

Gender: Female
Posts: 493



Love is like OXYGEN
deeawwnuh elijahssexyluva
View Profile
Re:The A+F agony aunts.
« Reply #39 on: April 24, 2005, 09:10:32 pm »
Reply with quote

Thanks to everyone that replied, you guys really made me see things from every perspective and supported me (especially on the first problem)

About D1: Really thanks for the support, I now know that I wasn't exaggerating and it really was rude of them. Our next meeting is tomorrow and I'm really working on the courage to tell them how I feel..we'll see how that goes

About D2: You all seem to agree that it all depends on if I see him again and you are all right. I wish it could be like with you Jess_B
Quote:
You may have noticed me talking about this jesse guy... well, i first saw him just in the halls every day... going to one class period. just once a day... well, i noticed him enough then to start looking for him more, to see if i see him more often. Turns out, he has my lunch too... then i noticed when he went through the lunch line... it was a pretty consistant time, so i started going through the lunchline with him. Then one day, i walked a different way to my class... and wouldn't you know that he walks the same way to get to his class? Now i see him probably 4 or 5 times a day... just from observing my surroundings and taking different routes to places. Perhaps you should do the same thing. Keep your eyes open next time you go somewhere... try taking the senic route to a class, maybe you'll run into him. It's always a possiblility... my school has 2000+ kids in it, and Jesse isn't even in my grade... i know a college campus would be a lil more difficult... but i think u might be able to pull it off. Good luck, hun.

I've been trying to do the same, but it hasn't been much of a success. I DID however see him @ the library yesterday before he was taken away by his big bro (he is in a fraternity) but in the time that we did get to talk he asked me how I had celebrated my birthday, I told him I hadn't done much so far cause I everyone was busy but that I wanted to go party and get drunk that night, then he said that if he heard of any party he would give me a call. I said ok then after a while realized that he doesn't have my number (nor do I have his) and he seemed to realize the same thing but thats when he had to leave...WHY DIDN'T I GIVE HIM MY NUMBER!..argh..sorry that its all in caps I just can't stop beating myself up about it. I had the chance and it completly passed me by. Now I have to wait till the next time I'll be lucky enough to run into him...lol..

Thanks for the suggestions though...lol..I don't want to seem stalkerish but I am "accidentally" trying to run into him. *sigh* I hope its not all in vain

Oh and about D3...hehe..lets just forget I ever said anything..whoa I must have been super emotional at the time..lol I don't know what I was saying. Sorry about that..but thanks for worrying 

And good luck to you too Jess_B!
Report to moderator   Logged


Thanks Chanterella!


SMILE!...cause you never know who is watching.
Flummoxed.
Kiwi at heart.
Global Moderator
*****

Offline

Gender: Female
Posts: 4108



Dance dance Orc.
FancierOfHobbits
View Profile
Re:The A+F agony aunts.
« Reply #40 on: April 24, 2005, 10:23:01 pm »
Reply with quote

Lady Dee - Heehee... a little "accidental stalking" is no crime. Lol. Seriously though.. trying to run into him more often isn't such a bad idea. It'll help you figure out what you feel for him, and whether or not he reciprocates those feelings. And if he does like you, I'm sure he won't be complaining about you running into him a little more than usual. 

As far as the issue with your floor government.. good luck! What they did to you was very very rude, and they do indeed deserve to be told about it. Be strong; stick up for yourself!

Lies - Oh boy, do I know the feeling you were talking about! When one day you wake up and suddenly realize people around you have someone to share their thoughts and feelings with, and you don't. It sucks. Definitely sucks.

I don't have a boyfriend right now, but one of my close friends does. And some days I get so envious of her. One of my other close friends has a bunch of very close relationships with guys - not boyfriends, exactly, but she's always talking about this guy from work, or that one. And I get jealous of that, too. I'd settle for a close friend of the male gender right now; anything!!

Lol, so I totally comiserate with how you're feeling. Try not to dwell on it too much. As everyone will tell you, there's plenty of time for boys left in your life.

It'll be hard to ignore it at first, especially when your friend has this new relationship and all. But, as Jess said, the giddy obsession will wear off eventually, and things will get back to being a little more comfortable.

Until then, well, see if you can find something to take your mind off it. Maybe pick up a new hobby or something. Also, hanging out with different groups of people might be fun, too. You say you don't meet new people well. But I bet you can! Everybody has a few friends they don't talk to much anymore, or know some people at school who aren't quite friends yet, but could be. Take the leap, and call some of them up. Who knows what could happen.

Good luck!
Report to moderator   Logged

The July Fellowship atop Edoras.

I went there... and back again. New Zealand RULES!
Artanis
"Differences of habit and language are nothing at all if our aims are identical and our hearts are open."
*
*****

Offline

Gender: Female
Posts: 1927



~Always and Forever~

View Profile
Re:The A+F agony aunts.
« Reply #41 on: April 25, 2005, 02:15:40 am »
Reply with quote

aah you guys are all so sweet and you give very good advice
thanks

I know you're right, and guess what, I talked to my friend yesterday, and he said he knows and he understands that I feel this way! I almost cried of happiness , it was a good conversation, not about his grilfriend ahum...

so thanks again!

Report to moderator   Logged


~Special thanks to the awesome Brenda, for the avatar~
Flummoxed.
Kiwi at heart.
Global Moderator
*****

Offline

Gender: Female
Posts: 4108



Dance dance Orc.
FancierOfHobbits
View Profile
Re:The A+F agony aunts.
« Reply #42 on: April 25, 2005, 03:34:16 pm »
Reply with quote

Aww, yay! I'm glad to hear things are looking up! 
Report to moderator   Logged

The July Fellowship atop Edoras.

I went there... and back again. New Zealand RULES!
LegolasBuzzgirl
O_o huh?
*
*****

Offline

Gender: Female
Posts: 2802



I'm a little teapot...

View Profile WWW
Re:The A+F agony aunts.
« Reply #43 on: April 26, 2005, 03:44:39 am »
Reply with quote

Aww- it's good you could talk to him. A lot of people would just have let it brew up into a huge jealousy thing. Well done for being strong!
Report to moderator   Logged




New fic up in the misc section. click banner for link.
Mr.Brownstone <3
Deliciously Insane
*
*****

Offline

Gender: Female
Posts: 3459



Dig music
hot_monkey_moo
View Profile WWW
Re:The A+F agony aunts.
« Reply #44 on: April 26, 2005, 11:27:28 am »
Reply with quote

Hellooo all.

You all seem really good at this advice thing. Si...want to help me out? I have a few minor friend problems. *sigh*


Let's start from the beginning.

A couple of my friends arranged a camping trip to wales this summer as my friend Sam has a camper up there. He chose to invite 4 girls and 4 boys (including himself) to make the numbers even.
So without me knowing Sam, Aimee and Mim arranged the whole thing and invited me and Abi. So the 5 of us started to make plans and write lists. Just for something to do wasting lunch times.

However. A couple of friends of mine got extremly jealous because they weren't invited. So they arranged their own camping trip to the next town over (Eye roll) to try and make us jealous.

Some how I don't see that happening.

So these 'friends' of mine were trying to make us jealous. Espically me, and to be frank they could go camping to Austrailia and I would'nt really care.

Then last monday we were sitting in our area at lunch and while listening to my friend Abi's MP3 with her, Lost prophets came on. And I started saying to her about how it was our "last Summer."

And one of the girls who isn't camping with us said "Yeah. Because we're going to die this year." When I wasn't even talking to her and i wasn't even on about that.

And from there they just kept ignoring myself, Abi, Aimee and Mim. But espically me.

And god knows why theywant to take it out on me, because I mean obviously it's my camper in Wales isn't it? and I arranged it all!

Abi and I met up with Lisa, Hannah and Carrianne (the girls not coming camping) on friday and Lisa whom was drunk kept bitching about Mim and Aimee saying "Don't you think those two are up each others arses?"  And bascially going on about how close they are now and she doesn't like it.

Also I heard from Abi that a friend of ours told her. "It isn't me, you and Aimee anymore. It's Aimee, Abi, Laura and Mim."

It seems like these two girls are jealous of us getting closer and growing up and moving on by finding more friends. I can't see why they just won't grow up themselves and see that to move on you have met and lose friends.

Do you reckon they're being like this just because they don't want to lose us and to stop that they must be immature?

I just don't understand why they are being so cold towards me about this whole camping trip when I have nothing to do with it and yet are perfectly nice to Sam who arranged the whole thing and didn't invite them. It makes no sense.
Report to moderator   Logged


.
Pages: 1 2 [3] 4 5 ... 80 Reply Notify of replies Send the topic Print 
« previous next »
Jump to: 
Always & Forever // Messageboard | Powered by YaBB SE
© 2001-2002, YaBB SE Dev Team. All Rights Reserved.

hosting & support by ejwsites.net

Page created in 0.235 seconds.