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Title: Real Love?
Post by: yoo_hoo on April 17, 2004, 03:33:58 pm

I'm just curious, I'm almost 14 and I have a boyfriend who's almost 16. My parents are always telling me that its not real love between us because were too young to experience that. We had been friends for about a year before we got together. I guess I loved him then as a friend.

Basically, what I'm asking is, do you think love has an age restriction or anything?

Title: Re:Real Love?
Post by: ElijahLover713 on April 17, 2004, 03:53:15 pm

I don't think it has an age limit, but it does take awhile to come around. You can't have a crush on someone for a week and say that you LOVE them.

I also think that true love comes when you're married to the person. Or something like that.

To me, there's different levels of love. Friend love, boyfriend/girlfriend love, engaged love, married love, old people love, etc.

Title: Re:Real Love?
Post by: Schokolinchen on April 17, 2004, 04:01:56 pm

i also think there is no limit for love.
but in my opinion you have to learn to love someone. as glinda said, it's not true love when you have a boyfriend/gilfriend just for one week. love needs time. after a while you think you can't survive just a minute without him/her. and i think then you can say it's love.

Title: Re:Real Love?
Post by: elijahsflower on April 17, 2004, 04:48:40 pm

hmm tough question and this is a gay answer: you'll know when you're in love.

i dunno how, but you'll know. *hums Guys and Dolls theme song*

and no, i think you can fall in love whenever: it's spontaneous

Title: Re:Real Love?
Post by: blackshirtredtie on April 17, 2004, 07:06:00 pm

I'm not sure, but I'd say there's no age limit. Wow, that helped.

Ha, and when I saw the title it made me think of the John Lennon/Beatles song "Real Love". :D

Title: Re:Real Love?
Post by: Drain_Bramaged on April 17, 2004, 07:23:18 pm

the fact that you even question love and whether it has age retrictions proves how juvinelle you are. Love is an abstract concept.
what you are expreincing is hormones raging about inside you. this 'love ' you two share may just be a viel of complex emotions and soon youll just keep eachother there simply to feed your animals desires.
at this age youre both very impeteous and implusive. theres nothing wrong with that. but dont think this is it.

Title: Re:Real Love?
Post by: blackshirtredtie on April 17, 2004, 07:28:54 pm

That was deep Ting. Very good. Let me ponder what you said. Hmm.

Title: Re:Real Love?
Post by: Tigerlily1419 on April 17, 2004, 08:44:40 pm

Yeah, that does sound right, Ting. I don't think there is an age restriction when you're older, but, when you're younger, I just think you shouldn't date someone who's older than you. I don't think that you really can be in love when you're younger. As Ting said, it's the hormones. Ya know?

Title: Re:Real Love?
Post by: amarie5 on April 17, 2004, 09:22:51 pm

Yeah, there isn't really an age restriction exactly on real love but when you're young there is the "hormone thing" and also you are still figuring out who you are (if that ever really stops) and you are really changing a lot all the time. Age differences mean a lot when you are younger because eventually if you're in different grades one person is going to graduate and go off to college and leave the other behind in high school. Does this also break up a realtionship? Of course not but often it will, because when you go to college it really is a whole new world and you are going to change at least some with it. As you get older it matters less and less (to an extent at least) because you are both at the same stage of life and you aren't changing so much. You should still have fun and enjoy who ever you are with but at the same time realize that you're not who you will be in a few years and that it is unlikely that you'll find "forever" so soon.

Ok that was long and you don't have to read it or agree with me, but that's what I think anyway.

Title: Re:Real Love?
Post by: MrS. HuCk FiNn on April 17, 2004, 10:46:29 pm

Love is not a reaction, it is a decision.

Title: Re:Real Love?
Post by: ElijahLover713 on April 17, 2004, 11:06:52 pm

[quote author=Spunky_funky_flower link=board=16;threadid=19621;start=0#msg595943 date=1082244198]
the fact that you even question love and whether it has age retrictions proves how juvinelle you are. Love is an abstract concept.
what you are expreincing is hormones raging about inside you. this 'love ' you two share may just be a viel of complex emotions and soon youll just keep eachother there simply to feed your animals desires.
at this age youre both very impeteous and implusive. theres nothing wrong with that. but dont think this is it.
[/quote]

I don't think that was meant to be funny, but......*can't keep a straight face*.....BAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!

Title: Re:Real Love?
Post by: yoo_hoo on April 18, 2004, 07:29:42 am

[quote author=Spunky_funky_flower link=board=16;threadid=19621;start=0#msg595943 date=1082244198]
soon youll just keep eachother there simply to feed your animals desires.
[/quote]

Hmmm...not sure I know what you mean...

Title: Re:Real Love?
Post by: doxiegrl1 on April 18, 2004, 11:12:49 am

I don't think love has an age restriction, but I do think it has a maturity restriction. In order to love someone I think you have to be pretty mature. Most young teens aren't exactly the most mature kids on the block, so generally speaking they won't know what true love is. There are always people whose mental age is older than their physical age...

Or something along those lines

Title: Re:Real Love?
Post by: PHF1138 on April 18, 2004, 11:21:15 am

(Jumping to Hani's defense, just because I feel like it):

Just thought I should point out that she's not the one "questioning" her love for this guy, at least not in her first post -- her parents are.

As for my two cents: I don't think it has an age restriction, no. But you have to wait and see if it stands the test of time -- by the time you hit forty, or even thirty, will you still be dating this guy? It's hard to tell, no matter how "mature" you are. People change, and at 14 you'll probably change a lot by the time you reach an age where you'll truly feel comfortable with your feelings. I know plenty of people in their twenties who still aren't -- you just don't know. Now, I feel like it's entirely possibly that you'll end up marrying this boy, but to be realistic, these things rarely turn out that way. I'd say just wait it out.

Title: Re:Real Love?
Post by: yoo_hoo on April 18, 2004, 03:05:02 pm

[quote author=Spunky_funky_flower link=board=16;threadid=19621;start=0#msg595943 date=1082244198]
this 'love ' you two share may just be a viel of complex emotions
[/quote]

Or maybe its not. Lol, btw, whats a viel?

Title: Re:Real Love?
Post by: Drain_Bramaged on April 18, 2004, 03:29:50 pm

[quote author=~~hani~~ link=board=16;threadid=19621;start=0#msg596436 date=1082287782]
[quote author=Spunky_funky_flower link=board=16;threadid=19621;start=0#msg595943 date=1082244198]
soon youll just keep eachother there simply to feed your animals desires.
[/quote]

Hmmm...not sure I know what you mean...
[/quote]
this guys older than you, so hes gonna have different feelings than you, to put it bluntly he gonna have a stronger urge to f*ck you. because thats what typical guys that age are gonna wanna do. im not saying that your bfs a horny, arrogant pig, but guys that age dont have the maturity but alot of hormones.
and i meant veil, typo error.

Title: Re:Real Love?
Post by: Seven on April 18, 2004, 07:51:03 pm

I think it could be; a lot of people met their mates for life when they were young. But it's too soon to know whether it actually is, and to determine that you'll probably both have to weather through some years and all the changes and pressures they bring.


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